http://www.hippiemommy.com/2006/05/09/provoking-your-children-to-anger/ The life and thoughts of spunky, funky, little punkie Wed, 07 Jan 2009 10:44:06 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.5 http://www.hippiemommy.com/2006/05/09/provoking-your-children-to-anger/#comment-715 Is it really a “deeper look” at heart issues? at HippieMommy Tue, 07 Nov 2006 04:43:05 +0000 http://www.hippiemommy.com/?p=59#comment-715 [...] and so on and so forth.  You get the idea.  They are trying to get to the heart of the issue and not leave their children with a seething anger.  Fabulous!  I agree! [...] [...] and so on and so forth.  You get the idea.  They are trying to get to the heart of the issue and not leave their children with a seething anger.  Fabulous!  I agree! [...]

]]> http://www.hippiemommy.com/2006/05/09/provoking-your-children-to-anger/#comment-34 at HippieMommy Thu, 12 Oct 2006 21:01:17 +0000 http://www.hippiemommy.com/?p=59#comment-34 [...] Ick. I really dislike this line of thinking. As Jeff VanVonderen says in Families Where Grace is in Place, when we use scripture or guilt to change someone, then that is manipulation. I have written about this before. …you may get an answer like; “I’m really angry that I have to do this,” or the child may simply show his anger by stomping or complaining. In response, many Christian parents would say, “Don’t you ever let me hear you talk like that, [or act like that],” or “You are making Jesus sad by being angry,” or “Go to your room and don’t come out until you can be polite.” If so, you are provoking them to seethe… …It is better to acknowledge their anger. Tell them that you appreciate their telling you about their anger, or the fact that they are angry, even though they may still be required to do the chore they don’t like. [...] [...] Ick. I really dislike this line of thinking. As Jeff VanVonderen says in Families Where Grace is in Place, when we use scripture or guilt to change someone, then that is manipulation. I have written about this before. …you may get an answer like; “I’m really angry that I have to do this,” or the child may simply show his anger by stomping or complaining. In response, many Christian parents would say, “Don’t you ever let me hear you talk like that, [or act like that],” or “You are making Jesus sad by being angry,” or “Go to your room and don’t come out until you can be polite.” If so, you are provoking them to seethe… …It is better to acknowledge their anger. Tell them that you appreciate their telling you about their anger, or the fact that they are angry, even though they may still be required to do the chore they don’t like. [...]

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