posted by amanda on Aug 23
I think I just realized that I am often fear-motivated. That’s really crazy.
I was cooking dinner and my dh has been upstairs talking on the phone to his best friend. He doesn’t talk to him very often, but he’s always really happy when he does. Dinner is ready, but I really didn’t want to make him stop talking, especially since I encouraged him to call. As I contemplated this, I realized how happy he’d be if I always respected him and kept a good attitude if he was going to be late (which is something that his personality is prone to be). Then I immediately thought that if I did that, then he’d run all over me - which is really ridiculous and completely unfounded. I realized that I try to be “strict” for fear that he won’t treat me well, and I’m really just taking away the opportunity to be gracious and for him to possibly return the grace. Hmmm, I need to think about this some more…
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